. >> reporter: and on that december day in 2005, the day her daughter a baltimore city police officer was murdered bernice johnson became the member of a club no parent wants to join. >> some days are and some not. >> reporter: on the days they struggle they have others here to support them. they're parts of mothers of murdered sons and daughters. >> it's a shame that this organization is growing by leaps and bounds, not something we're particularly proud of but it was necessary to do to help parents with this pain. >> reporter: to cope they hold this annual cookout and memorial. they honor those lost and we can those come to join their ranks. >> we want to turn it into something positive and that's what our goal is. >> reporter: they meet up like this to support each other and hit the community to spread a message of antiviolence using the tragic stories of their own children hoping the message hits home enough to keep someone else's child from meeting the same fate. >> this murder, this violence has to stop. >> reporter: the members of moms also make it a priority to be there for an